Tuesday, January 26, 2010

Work for peace and you will find love and mercy


Photo Courtesy of U.S. Army


Peace is elusive. It is futile. And yet we are still responsible for seeking it, creating it, and not supporting anything that would hinder it.

This shouldn't upset us. The Christian life is full of paradox. We can be glad for them. They remind us that this life is complex enough to keep us from reaching any cut-and-dry, declarative conclusions on subjects that are not meant to be ours to control. Anything simpler would be a hobby.

This paradox gets juicier: Can we ever be truly at peace with any peace that we find?

The famous Micah 6:8 exhortation lists the three simple expectations placed on us:
  • Act justly

  • Love mercy

  • Walk humbly with your God


What are the implications for peace? If you do those three, peace will be a byproduct. If you achieve peace, you will have realized those three as well.

So, that's easy enough, right?

Sort of. You know that Megadeth album? Peace Sells, But Who's Buying? It doesn't take a genius to figure out that achieving peace takes a lot more effort, ingenuity, genius, and work than managing war.

But that's not quite what we're discussing here.

Who needs peace? Victims of violent inequities: abuse, economics, genetics, guilt.

  • The now-adult woman who was repeatedly brutalized as a child and remained silent because she assumed no one would believe her. She is plagued by nightmares and haunted by feelings of worthlessness, unable to be comfortable with any good thing because of the conviction that it will dissolve in an imminent instant. She needs us to reassure her, nobly, kindly, tenderly.


  • The out-of-work husband and father who can't find hope in the midst of a rising horde of militant creditors. He needs us to hire him.


  • The third-world family who needs to travel by foot two hours each way just to get enough nominally clean water to survive every day. When the water hole dries up, or becomes contaminated, they will die. They need us to build infrastructure in their community, and show them how to use and maintain it.


  • The young urbanite who has concluded that the best course of action for safety and growth is to join a gang that will validate his involvement in something important, but only in exchange for his involvement in rape, theft, extortion, and murder. He needs us to show him security beyond violence.


  • The manic-depressive who left her manic phase behind months ago and plans this week to be her last. She needs therapy and medication, and she needs us not to judge her for that.


  • The junior high school student who is ridiculed and humiliated, on the verge of doing something drastic and final to himself or herself, or to others. They need those of us who have survived it to come alongside and remind that ridicule and humiliation are not the antithesis of self-worth (and, indeed, may actually be signs of jealousy).


  • The veteran who wakes up screaming, overwhelmed by images of atrocities witnessed, or perpetrated by him. At the risk of great peril, is it our right to expect someone else to show him that his hands were made to do the work of something better than destruction?


Do you notice a connection here between peace and love? A life of peace will love others. A life not of peace will withhold love from others.

Peace happens on an individual basis, mano a mano. It's one of the few things we can give to someone else without losing it ourselves. Give it out liberally.

Now let's get to work.

This post is part of
Bridget Chumbley's One Word at a Time Blog Carnival.
Previous carnival entries have focused on lust, love, and church.

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What a great post. When we externalize our focus we achieve peace. When we achieve peace we externalize our focus. Relationships! Relationships! Relationships!
1 reply · active 795 weeks ago
Thanks Russell.

Your comment reminds me of an Abraham Lincoln quote that could have given any of us another direction to approach this from. He once said something like, "The best way to destroy an enemy is to make him a friend."

(There are several versions of the quote out there. Maybe he said all of them. I dunno. But that version works.)
Those examples you cite -- I think I've met them all. Some of them in my own heart. Great post.
1 reply · active 795 weeks ago
Thanks, Glynn.

Yeah, that's the thing about some of those examples: they don't exactly come with neon signs identifying them. Given the choices between causing further harm, doing nothing, and helping, the first TWO options actually allow the problem to intensify. So if we don't constantly model a life of peace, then we are inadvertently acting violently.

And none of us are constant. We need to work to get better, or others will suffer.

For the record, I'd rather be accused of codependence than risk someone else suffering unnecessarily. (I was going to put a smiley emoticon after that last sentence, but I decided against it.)
"You know that Megadeth album? Peace Sells, But Who's Buying?"

Actually? NO. But I still understand what you're illustrating with it. Great and thought-provoking post.
1 reply · active 795 weeks ago
To be honest, I've never listened to it either. But I did some research on it for this post. I was intrigued by the political complexity and general benevolence in the themes. (The title came from a Reader's Digest article. How's that for heavy metal inspiration!)

Their point actually is that those who claim to seek peace are often complicit with political chicanery and can be bought for a price. Making money off of peace doesn't make you a very peaceful person. The album cover has some great "Whoops! Too late!" artwork. I'm not a huge fan of heavy metal, but I do appreciate sarcasm as a form of communication. :)
As usual, great post. (I say "as usual" as though I've read you for years. I haven't. But I swiftly became a fan.)

"A life of peace will love others. A life not of peace will withhold love from others."

Just bravo.
1 reply · active 795 weeks ago
Thanks, Cheryl. That means a lot to me. I appreciate your blog a lot too because you're not afraid of being accused of hypocrisy in your loving willingness to help some of us avoid some of your own pitfalls.

I occasionally want to interact and comment but I feel like I'm crashing a girl's tea party. That's not a complaint. It's just a recognition that it's your place. Please know that I appreciate it anyway. :)
Why did I think that the word Peace was going to make for easy reading? I'm in tears (again) and wanted to say... wow! Great thoughts, and so much left to contemplate...
1 reply · active 795 weeks ago
Who needs peace? I made my Blog Carnival hostess cry. :( Whoops. That seems self-defeating.

I'm funny on most of my social media sites. I really need to stop making people cry in my blog posts. But I'm glad we all have stuff to chew on! I just wish I had better news and easier answers. The longer I live the Christian life (or try to, which is the point, I suppose), the more I realize how complex and messy and difficult it is.

If there's good news, of course, it's that this realization makes grace and mercy and forgiveness all the more meaningful and valuable. God has already anticipated the worst of our failures. I hope we can work not to live up to those expectations. But our report card so far as a species doesn't look very good.
/The Christian life is full of paradox. We can be glad for them. They remind us that this life is complex enough to keep us from reaching any cut-and-dry, declarative conclusions on subjects that are not meant to be ours to control. Anything simpler would be a hobby./

My Dad and I were talking of this exact thing last night. Good post Jeff.
1 reply · active 795 weeks ago
Thanks, Tab!

I'm not 100% which "Tab" this is chiming in, but I've got a good hunch, if I've heard before that you and your dad are apt to have nice, philosophical chats like this.

I hope I get a chance to sit down with him someday and listen. I think that would be fascinating.

Send him down to California for a retreat or something. :)
"A life of peace will love others. A life not of peace will withhold love from others." ~ Okay dang...that was good.
1 reply · active 795 weeks ago
Yeah, as complex as things are, it's still nice to oversimplify them once in a while into a short saying. :)

Thanks, K. :)
Excellent. Love comes from the heart. A loving heart is a heart at peace. Each is a gift.

(I hope you'll stop by and leave a comment on my post. Every comment benefits the Vassar Haiti Project. Thank you.)
1 reply · active 795 weeks ago
Thanks, Maureen. I'll do that right now.

I would have done the same thing with mine, save for the fact that I'm out of work and had this fear that this would be my first post to go viral and bring 10,000 people by.

But I'm all for supporting Haiti, seriously!
Brilliant post. Thank you!
1 reply · active 795 weeks ago
Thank you, Louise.

Your post today was...disturbing. Thoroughly. And that's not a complaint. It's a testament to the power of your writing. You poured your narrative, your emotion, your own memory of turmoil into it. Besides, it should disturb me. For that sort of content not to disturb me, I'd have to be a psychopath.

And you came out with peace at the end. Thank you, too, for that mercy.

I'm reading Mary DeMuth's new memoir right now, "Thin Places." It doesn't officially come out until next week, but I think stores are already carrying it. She's another woman who finds peace after devastation. I have little experience with that sort of devastation, but I rejoice with her and with you and with all others who have found or been led to a stable foundation after having been falsely convinced that no such foundation exists.
Micah 6:8 =Peace=Generous Lavish Love Giving. Nice chord progression..... :)
1 reply · active 795 weeks ago
I just stopped by your blog and saw the importance that music is to you. Thanks for thinking of my thoughts as a chord progression. As an amateur composer and one of those folks who's noticed a unity in most all academic disciplines (which I may write a post on sometime), thank you for that. That means a lot. :)

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